Friday, March 19, 2010

Post 4

1a. Quote, Maxine's mom and a FOB, 194
The girl's said they'd never date a FOB. My mother took one home from the laundry, and I saw him looking our photographs. "This one," he said, picking up my sister's picture.

2a. Maxine's parents are trying to marry off their children, and they would normally marry off the eldest. Even if the younger child was more popular, they wouldn't marry her off unless they are desperate. Sometimes people would marry off their children is when they are in need of money and they would marry their kids to a rich person.

3a. I thought that it was funny that they had put FOB's in here. Usually when I hear the term FOB, people are talking about Filipino's, and I'm Filipino =P. Also I thought that it was weird how Maxine's parents are trying to marry their kid to someone without letting them test the waters first. I personally would feel so embarrassed or ashamed that I had to have my Mother find me a husband.

4a. Question: If you were in an arranged marriage and you have never met the man before, would you go through with it? Why or why not?

1b. Quote, Maxine and her mom, 203
"When I go to college, it won't matter if I'm not charming. And it doesn't matter if a person is ugly; she can still do schoolwork."
"I didn't say you were ugly."
"You say that all the time."
"That's what we're supposed to say. That's what Chinese say. We like to say the opposite."

2b. Maxine's mother has been saying a bunch of opposite things to Maxine, which in turn makes Maxine think that her mother doesn't really like her. Usually American's say exactly what's on their minds, even if it's extremely rude. Maxine's mother is acting more Chinese then American.

3b. In my opinion, Maxine's mother seems to be afraid to be more American, it may not seem that way in the book, but to me (some how) it does. I think that if she acts American, she might loose her Chinese. That may be a weird way of explaining it, but that's basically the way I see it.

4b. What would you say to your mother if she kept putting you down?

1 comment:

  1. Jessica Sloan

    Response: I agree with you. I had the same point of view. I don'tknow how I could let my mother find the man I had to spend the rest of my life with.
    Answer:
    I don't think I could go through with it. Unless my family was in danger, or some other harm, and marrying the man got them out of danger, then I would do it. I honestly need to know that the person I am going to marry is the right match for me. If not, it's a no-go.

    Response #2:
    I was confused by this. IT definitely says a lot about Chinese culture. Why say one thing, but mean the opposite?

    Answer #2:
    I would definitely confront my mom if she insulted me. It's not ok.

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